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Book lists: Queer reads

(This is cut/paste for part of my syllabus):

Helpful links

Memoirs and biographies of trans people:

http://www.glbtq.com/sfeatures/transautobio.html

http://www.goodreads.com/list/show/6544.Transgender_Memoirs_and_Biographies

http://www.amazon.com/b?ie=UTF8&node=160223011

Add: Second Son by Ryan Sallans

Memoirs and biographies of Lesbians:

http://www.goodreads.com/list/show/21648.Lesbian_Memoirs

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/?category_id=921391:

Gay Men:

https://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/gay-biography

http://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Books-Gay-Biographies/zgbs/books/2440

Bisexuals:

http://www.biwriters.org/pages/bisexualbiographyN.html

Polyamory:

http://www.polychromatic.com/bio.html

Asexual resources:

http://www.asexuality.org/home/links.html

 

 

 

 

 

Source: Washington Post

Question from Anonymous

I am probably not the most typical person to ask you questions but im Elliot(FTM) and my parents are very un-accepting of the fact i like girls to the point I'm afraid to tell them that I am Transgender and prefer a different name and male pronouns. What should I do? My parents are not religious either so I don't understand why they are so against me being happy with who I am.

Actually, you ARE.  Many parents begin to plan their kids’ lives before they are even born. They continue to develop their hopes and dreams as their kids grow up. Eventually, they start doing that with their grandkids. The grandkids they also assumed they would get and that would live nearby. 

ENTER REALITY.

Our children don’t owe us anything. They didn’t ask to be born. You chose to have them. The real goal is to raise kids to be who they truly are.  If you love and nurture them, they will become authentic loving adults. THAT is your reward. That is the REALITY.

Few parents have a baby identified as a boy or girl and keep an open mind about their eventual gender identity. Most parents are FLOORED by the news that they have a transgender kid.

The GOOD news is that there are more and MORE parents realizing the joy in having a transgender kid. Many of us (parents who chat on the support group TransYouthFamilyAllies) express our appreciation that our wonderful beloved kids wouldn’t be who they are if they weren’t trans*. We love them as they are, and they are trans*. We wouldn’t change them. We all wish the rest of the world felt as we do and it breaks our hearts when our kids are hurt by a transphobic and generally anti-queer society. We would do anything to spare them that pain. 

Your question of what to do about YOUR parents? For one, you don’t know how they will react to your being trans*. They may be in denial — hoping that you will knock it off  and be the straight-cis daughter they think they’ve raised.

Get resources from TYFA, PFLAG, and other places that could help them and also give you ideas of how to approach them.

Stay true to yourself. Be yourself. Be PROUD.