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Question from Anonymous

My husband is 24, and transgender (mtf), but was never able to go through any kind of change because of his parent's religious background, and he was just ridiculed for being feminine as a young boy. So, instead, he clammed up for years and only just recently started telling certain people he is trans, due to my support for him. He works in the Military, and cannot legally go through any procedure without losing his job. I feel for any other military members who have this issue. <3

From what I understand, men come out of the military and transition MTF at a greater percentage than the general population. I’m sure you’re not alone. Have you looked for a support group, topics that are obvious would be military partners of transgender [soldiers? recruits? workers?] How about a group for Military SOFFAs? Signifiant others friends, family allies. Generally used in the context of partners of transgender people. 

I was going to ask why you use male pronouns given that you are supportive. But perhaps that is what your partner prefers.  Do you think you will stay with her after she transitions? 

DADT was repealed - when will they go back and pick up their trans* family? How much longer do they have to wait till it is THEIR turn for equality?

I’ll post this and hope someone reading it will post a comment that might help you. ♡

Love for Kathy Griffin

Kathy Griffin has, over the past few years, been a persistent thorn in the side of the Palin family, pulling public stunts, taking out Levi Johnston to events and making jokes about Sarah and Bristol a regular part of her stand-up repertoire. Now, with a new religious ultraconservative woman taking the spotlight, the comedienne has a new target in her sights.

Appearing on “Conan” Monday night, Griffin recalled the time she met Bachmann in Washington while researching for her rally to repeal Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

Perhaps mistaking Griffin for someone else, one of Bachmann’s staffers pulled out a video camera to capture their interaction for her website. First, Griffin says she asked the Congresswoman if she’d support an effort to repeal the law that banned homosexuals from the military. When Bachmann declined, Griffin got personal.

"Congresswoman Bachmann, were you born a bigot or did you, like, grow into it?" she asked — on tape.

As for Bachmann’s answer?

"That’s a good question. I’m gonna have to get back to ya," she said, perhaps not creating the best of campaign slogans.

Source: The Huffington Post

Military members march for San Diego gay pride

By Marty Graham

SAN DIEGO | Sat Jul 16, 2011 8:06pm EDT

(Reuters) - A group of U.S. service members marched in a San Diego gay pride parade on Saturday, in a demonstration organizers touted as an unprecedented step for gay and lesbian military personnel under the Pentagon’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy.

The military contingent in the parade numbered about 250 people, and the former Navy operations specialist who brought the group together said many are currently in the military, while the rest are veterans. They dressed in civilian clothes.

Marine Corporal Will Rodriguez-Kennedy is on active duty and said he looks forward to next year’s parade, when he believes it will be possible to march in “dress blues.”

"One of my friends here has been back from Afghanistan for three days, and when he heard about the parade he said he served in uniform and he should be able to march in uniform,” said Rodriguez-Kennedy, 24.

It was unclear exactly how many members of the San Diego gay pride parade’s military contingent were on active duty. Several participants who spoke to Reuters had recently left the armed services.

Under the military’s existing “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, service members are barred from saying they are gay or lesbian, and that has until now discouraged some members of the military from participating in gay pride parades.

Organizers said the San Diego contingent, which included straight supporters also in the armed services, represented the largest group of members of the military to ever march in the city’s gay pride parade, or any similar U.S. event.

Gay service members have been known to march in other pride parades, but usually in a low-key manner without calling attention to themselves.

COURT DECISION

The march came a day after a three-judge panel of the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals temporarily reinstated the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy on gays, but blocked the Pentagon from penalizing or discharging anyone for being openly gay. The decision marked a reversal from an earlier order to immediately end the policy.

President Barack Obama signed legislation in December to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” but the bill gave the Pentagon an unlimited time frame to implement the change, leading up to a final “certification” of the repeal.

That certification is expected within weeks.

In a parade that featured drag queens costumed as nuns and men dressed as pirates with G-strings, the military contingent of mostly men in their 20s and 30s marched in markedly more conservative clothing.

They wore green or grey t-shirts emblazoned with their military branch, and each carried in hand a small U.S. flag.

"This is my first time here, out as who I am: a gay man in the Army Reserves," Dale Smith, 50, told Reuters. "It’s a great day for me and for all the gay people who’ve chosen to serve their country."

A Pentagon spokeswoman said U.S. Department of Defense regulations do not prohibit marching in parades while wearing civilian clothes, and that participation “does not constitute a declaration of sexual orientation.”

The military contingent in the San Diego parade was organized by Sean Sala, an openly gay 26 year-old man, who left the Navy in June after six years.

"When we were walking, every step of the way it was standing ovations from the crowd," Sala said. "My mom was with me and it made her cry."

San Diego, California’s second-largest city, has a large military presence. The nearby Camp Pendleton is the largest Marine Corps base west of the Mississippi Rive

Source: reuters.com

CIA to sponsor LGBT advocacy group summit

With the country mired in a grave debate about the debt and government spending, the CIA confirmed Monday that they are sponsoring a gay advocacy group’s summit on issues affecting lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) military members.

“The Central Intelligence Agency sponsorship exemplifies the climate of mutual respect for all that was cultivated on Secretary [Leon] Panetta’s watch,” said Jonathan Hopkins combat veteran and the DC managing director for the host group, OutServe. (Panetta seems to tie Iraq to 9/11 in Baghdad speech)

“Promoting diversity within the CIA’s ranks — in its many forms — is a top priority for the Agency,” Marie Harf, CIA spokesman told TheDC.

The CIA joins the Human Rights Campaign, Amazon, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, Coverity, Out & Equal, Log Cabin Republicans, Stonewall Democrats of Southern Nevada, and the American Veterans for Equal Rights to put on the 2011 OutServe Armed Forces Leadership Summit in Las Vegas, Nev., this October.

“The OutServe Armed Forces Leadership Summit will provide an international forum on creating an environment of respect in the military with regards to sexual orientation and gender identity,” the Summit sponsorship page explains. “It will provide the LGBT military community a means of building professional networks, sharing best practices and formulating strategies that help build a stronger military community.”

According to OutServe’s summit page, sponsorships cost up to $50,000. The CIA’s sponsorship was in the $10,000 range. The agency will headline a panel with Amazon about LGBT careers after military service.


Read more: http://dailycaller.com/2011/07/11/cia-to-sponsor-lgbt-advocacy-group-summit/#ixzz1Rxe7RNiX

Source: dailycaller.com

Inspirgaytion from Unicornbooty.com

Two stories about a (gay) solider who died in Afghanistan.

Cpl. Andrew Charles Wilfahrt died in Afghanistan at age 31.

The story of Cpl. Andrew Wilfahrt, a gay servicemember who recently died, has really touched us. This man was selfless, and died while shielding his colleagues from danger. He died before DADT was repealed, and never had the chance to be the out and proud gay man that his father remembers in this video.