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Jul 20

Book lists: Queer reads

(This is cut/paste for part of my syllabus):

Helpful links

Memoirs and biographies of trans people:

http://www.glbtq.com/sfeatures/transautobio.html

http://www.goodreads.com/list/show/6544.Transgender_Memoirs_and_Biographies

http://www.amazon.com/b?ie=UTF8&node=160223011

Add: Second Son by Ryan Sallans

Memoirs and biographies of Lesbians:

http://www.goodreads.com/list/show/21648.Lesbian_Memoirs

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/?category_id=921391:

Gay Men:

https://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/gay-biography

http://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Books-Gay-Biographies/zgbs/books/2440

Bisexuals:

http://www.biwriters.org/pages/bisexualbiographyN.html

Polyamory:

http://www.polychromatic.com/bio.html

Asexual resources:

http://www.asexuality.org/home/links.html

 

 

 

 

 

Transgender Memoirs and Biographies (94 books) -

As I plan my LGBTQ Psychology course for the fall, I thought I’d share some of my lists.

Jul 18

(Source: texas-teen-pride, via lgbtqblogs)

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bookriot:

Get ready for your TBR to explode. Here’s a nice, thick list of LGBTQ reading for any occasion.

bookriot:

Get ready for your TBR to explode. Here’s a nice, thick list of LGBTQ reading for any occasion.

(via lgbtqblogs)

Jul 17

Atari Unveils <i>Pridefest</i>, an LGBT-Themed Social Sim Game -

Jul 15

This Cashier Told Obama A Gay Sex Joke And Got The Best Reaction

Jul 10

National Gay Blood Drive

Post submitted by Ryan James Yezak, founder of National Gay Blood Drive 

Despite a constant need for blood, and the essential role donors play  in replenishing the supply, the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) bans gay and bisexual men from donating blood.

My personal journey with this ban began three years ago. There had been a natural disaster in the Midwest and my boss at the time asked me if I wanted to go donate blood with her. Without hesitation, I said yes.

I got up to grab my stuff when all of a sudden I had this vague memory of donating blood in high school – there had been this one particular question that more or less asked if I was gay.  A quick Google search confirmed my memory. A gay blood ban, also known as the MSM deferral, bans any man who has had sex with another man since 1977, from giving blood— for life.

I couldn’t believe it. It didn’t feel real. I had to tell my boss that while I was healthy as could be, I could not donate due to the fact that I was gay. I had to explain the situation to everyone in my department. For the first time in my life, I felt like I was being treated differently solely on the basis of my sexual orientation - it felt alienating, it felt wrong, but above all - it felt unnecessary. I was not okay with it and so I set off to make a documentary about it.

I spent the next two years trying to figure out why this ban was still in place.  I could not find a sound answer.  The FDA refused my request for an interview. I called, I emailed, and as a last, unsuccessful, attempt I even went to Washington, D.C. to try to talk to them in person - but was turned away by their security.

I was ready to accept defeat and throw in the towel. Then I thought to myself: if they won’t let us be a part of this life-saving process, then we’ll organize a blood drive of our own. It was at that moment that the National Gay Blood Drive was born.

Last year, we organized the blood drive for the very first time and had hundreds of people participate throughout the country. Gay and bisexual men got tested to show their eligibility to donate and were then permanently deferred. We wanted to show the FDA that our community has something to contribute to the nation’s blood supply, so, afterwards, I delivered all of the negative test results to the FDA. I ended up receiving a generic response from Health and Human Services linking me to the MSM section of the FDA’s website - the same information I had been sent many times before.

What surprised me most about last year’s drive was the nearly equivalent amount of support and participation from our allies - people I didn’t even think this ban impacted. But the truth is that this ban affects everyone. 41,000 blood donations are needed every day.  Someone needs a blood donation every two seconds in the U.S., and you never know when that someone is going to be you. People who need blood don’t care whether it’s straight blood or gay blood - blood is blood. They want safe blood and that is something that our community has to offer them.

I have organized the National Gay Blood Drive again this year, this time in a way that more people can get involved with, including eligible ally donors. On July 11, gay and bisexual men will come out in 61 cities around the country to show their willingness to contribute to the nation’s blood supply by bringing eligible allies to donate in their place. We will be raising awareness, we will be helping save lives, and we hope to see you there.

In addition to the drive, we have launched a White House petition calling on the FDA to end its ban against gay and bisexual male blood donors. If we can get 100,000 signatures by July 30, President Obama’s administration will issue a response to the ban. This has yet to happen, and signing the petition is another action that you can take at this time. 

Jul 09

Civilities Chat: PFLAG’s Jody Huckaby on coming out for young people today -

SP: What’s the biggest trend you’re seeing when we’re talking about coming out?

The biggest trend that PFLAG is seeing though through our 350+ chapters across the country is more parents coming to PFLAG because their young child is trans, or is displaying or exhibiting behaviors that are considered gender non-conforming.

In fact, this is largest growth factor across our entire chapter network from our very urban areas like NYC, DC, LA and our more rural communities like Ames, and Omaha and Tampa.

And more adult people who are transgender are finding PFLAG as a place to build community and to build family.

SP: How is coming out different for a trans person than a gay or lesbian one?

Coming out as trans might feel like it was for us 25+ years ago. Very foreign and very scary, with few reference points as role models.

I even hear this within the LGBQ community that they have few if any personal contact with people who are trans.

I was just at the White House recently and saw Laverne Cox, who is a great role model for many people who are trans. Every time I see her, I thank her for putting herself out there as a role model for younger people.

SP: Speaking of people being younger to come out, what’s your advice on whether they should use social media services like Facebook, Twitter, etc.?

Coming out through social media undoubtedly feels “safer” to a young person who is finally able to express who s/he really is. But there are so many dangers in doing so that we advise young people to think through the potential consequences of sharing themselves in such a public way.

Social media is a great way to communicate, and we can use it to share very personal aspects of our lives. I have lots of nieces and nephews and I live far from them but I get to read about and see photos of their expanding families. Still, we advise much caution in coming out through social media given the reality of cyber bullying.
Today, people are coming out as LGBTQ at a much younger age. The context for their coming is very different, thanks to the many good changes that have been occurring.

However, the sad reality is that for every positive story we hear through PFLAG of a child’s coming to their family, we also hear the stories of rejection, the stories of bullying at school.

Young people are still running away from home, or worse, kicked out of their homes by their families, because they are trying to live honestly and authentically as LGBTQ.

So yes, it’s definitely easier than it was for you and for me, but there is still so much more work to be done to truly create a world where young people can be all that they are, and be loved and accepted and celebrated for who they are.

(Source: Washington Post)

Jul 04

Trans* + Partners Survey -

cisgirltransboy:

cisgirltransboy:

This is your chance to actively shape the direction queer research is going. I am an undergraduate psychology student working on a summer grant project and I see this research as having a positive impact on trans(*) communities in terms of creating a better place for queer research in academia. The survey should take around 20-30 minutes and your opinions are crucial!

If you are over 18, involved in a relationship, identify as transgender or have a partner who does, click through to access the survey.

Please only take survey once to preserve integrity of results.

Questions? Email Sarah Bussen at scb5283@truman.edu

Over 18? Trans? In a relationship? Or cis but dating someone who is trans? Take this survey!