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Apr 22

HARVEY STAMPS! Preorder now

These self-adhesive stamps are being issued in sheets of 20.

The U.S. Postal Service® is proud to honor the life of Harvey Milk, a visionary leader who became an iconic figure in the struggle for gay civil rights. In 1977, Milk was elected to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors, making him one of the first openly gay elected officials in the United States. His career was tragically cut short nearly a year after he took office, when he and San Francisco Mayor George Moscone were assassinated.

The stamp art centers on a photo of Milk taken in front of his camera store in San Francisco. The colors of the gay pride flag appear in a vertical strip in the top left corner.

A commitment to serving a broad constituency, not just gay people, helped make Milk an effective and popular leader. He was an eloquent speaker with a winning sense of humor and was able to build coalitions between diverse groups. His achievements gave hope and confidence to gay people at a time when the community was encountering widespread hostility.Milk believed that government should represent all citizens, insuring equality and providing needed services. In the years since his death, there have been hundreds of openly lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender public officials in America. In 2009, President Barack Obama posthumously awarded Milk the Medal of Freedom.

Photographer Daniel Nicoletta took the photograph used in the stamp art, which was designed by art director Antonio Alcalá.

The Harvey Milk stamp is being issued as a Forever® stamp. This Forever stamp will always be equal in value to the current First-Class Mail® one-ounce rate.

(Source: store.usps.com)

Apr 20

happy springtime

happy springtime

Apr 18

On “Passing” As A Woman | The TransAdvocate -

important read.

Apr 17

Lawyer who argued in favor of Prop 8 now planning gay daughter’s wedding – LGBTQ Nation -

Anti-LGBT rights until it involves their own children. Happy to see his “evolution” but sad he caused so much harm first.

Anonymous asked: 4. I don’t feel like I can even go to them anymore because it’s always my fault or it’s not a good time or they can’t handle that right now etc. I feel like I’m a nuisance when all I’m doing is living my life, finally. It got to the point where I had to do something about this as I was so unhappy and they saw that every day so I don’t understand why they can’t see that and try to accept it. They always said, no matter what, they would be there but they weren't. Sorry for ranting :/

this is the 4th of your 4-part question. For readers: he is 25, his parents have known he is trans since he was 9, but don’t appear to be accepting him as their son. He described parents in denial about his gender identity, that they  ignore it and change the subject if it comes up. They think it is a mental illness and are embarrassed to be seen with him in public (his interpretation of their motivation). He was suicidal before he was out as trans but is happy now. He wants a relationship with them even though they respond to his attempts at communication with yelling and storming out.

Ok- you want parents who accept and love you as you are. They might, but the are not showing it. They’ll be there no matter what but if being there means destroying your self-esteem, I’m not sure what good it really is. 

You want your parents to be in a place that they are not.

You can’t force them to be either. If you feel they are  toxic influences in your life right now, you may want to take a break from trying. Tell them what you’re doing and why. You need to be with people who appreciate your happiness and respect you as you are- and when they can get to that point, you will want to be around them more often.

They have the choice of accepting you or not. Tell them you will be waiting anxiously for that time so you can have a close relationship with them.

Anonymous asked: How do you come out to your really religious parents and friends?

Mom, Dad, I’m gay.— something like that.

Religious people are people with strong beliefs in a higher power- SOME refuse to accept people who are different or they might follow rules that preclude loving  their queer children. It is not uncommon for parents closely aligned with sexual prejudice to move  from prejudice to acceptance when it is their own kid. 

I spoke to a woman in her 80s the other day. Nice Christian lady in in my small bible-belt town. She she had just seen me on the news talking about including gender identity the nondiscrimination policy where I work and told me that her granddaughter is “married to another girl”. She added that she doesn’t understand it but that would never keep her from loving her. It reminded me of how open people can be if you give them the chance. I would not have ever expected to have that conversation with that lady. 

As I told the last anon- communicate to them that you know God loves you as you are and want the same from them.

Anonymous asked: So.. I am finding myself falling in love with a female. Granted, he is an FTM (female transgendered to male) but I just have no idea how I'm going to come out to my parents. They are pretty religious, and when I've tried coming out in the past, they respond with "oh well you're only feeling this was because you spend too much time on the internet" or "you need to go to church more". I still do believe/ have faith in god. 100%. I guess I just don't know what to do..

Hard to say because I don’t know your age, how long you’ve known him, and other things that could help. The main thing that jumps out to me is you calling him “a female”. If you see him as female and feel the need to come out as…as what? that is problematic. I don’t want to discourage you because it may just be that you aren’t clear on his identity or what words to use.

If you want to pursue a relationship with him, find out about his identity, preferred pronouns, name,and if he wants to be out or stealth.  Compared to a relationship with a cisguy,you have an added dimension of gender identity (and perhaps sexual orientation).  Ask yourself how you identify. Do you love him as the man he is or do you see him as a masculine woman? How does he see himself?

I know women who love transmen and identify as straight. They are women with men. Personally, I don’t think I would be happy if I were a transwoman and my partner identified as a gay man. Everyone has their own feeling so you need to find out his and explore yours.

Finally, being very religious isn’t an indication of them not respecting and accepting of your relationship with a transman or if you are pansexual. If they are very religious in a religion unaccepting of non-heterosexual, non-cisgender people, you may have to talk more about how you identify, that it isn’t going to change, you know God loves you as you are, and want them to love you as well. 

Apr 16

Anonymous asked: my mum is yelling at me over wearing the male cap and gown at (high school) graduation and saying she doesnt want to be a part of my future etc., "wear the girl one for your grandmother's sake", "i'm not going to graduation if you do this" and such, and i'm not going to give in... do you have any advice please i'm sorry to bother you

Well…I can only tell you what *I* would do or suggest for my own son - wear the cap/gown that you want to, go to graduation and hold your head high. If they miss it, it is THEIR loss. I know you’d be sad if your family didn’t show up but you would know you’re being true to yourself and they would end up regretting not sharing  your big day. (no bother, congratulations btw) 

Anonymous asked: I told my parents that i'm gay this year and while they didn't seem angry about it at all, there was a horribly long and awkward silence for a while and they seemed very shocked. Since then I've noticed that whenever me or my brother (who's also gay) bring up anything LGBT-related they're silent or try to change the subject. While I'm glad they aren't angry or upset I wish I could talk to them about things that affect me because of my sexuality without the uncomfortable silence. any advice?

They are hoping you’ll forget about it or it will just go away. Or, they don’t have any idea of how to support you or what to say or do. Either way- PFLAG could help. If you think you could get them to a meeting, go  to PFLAG.org to look for meetings in your area. If not, you can read and download tons of support information. As hard as this way is, NOT talking about it yet may be better than saying something they will regret later. It sounds to me as if you’ve given them enough time and it may be time for them to seek outside help. 

Hang in there.

Jelly Belly Chairman Donates $5k to Turn Back The Rights of Trans Students In California / Queerty -

selling them jelly beans with one hand and taking away their rights and dignity with the other.