Anonymous asked: I know this is a difficult question to answer but I thought i'd ask anyway. How do I move on and truly accept that my mother will never truly love or accept the real me. I just don't know how to go about reconciling the loving daughter part of me and the adult who understands the reality of their ignorance and prejudice.
Your question is too hard and I don’t know the answer. You have to really understand that you don’t owe her your sexuality. That is yours alone. I’ve tried to do something similar with my father- not over sexuality, just everything else. I started trying when I was a teenager and now I’m in my 50s. But I keep trying. Maybe we just have to give up the hope that we’ll have the parents we wanted.
The good thing is that her ignorance and prejudice could change over time and she may want you back. Loving family. But you can’ fulfill her dreams so live your own.
yornociam asked: I came out to my dad as bisexual 2 years ago when I was 16, and he pretty much said no you're not you're gay or straight, you'll decide later. Turns out I still like my gender and others! As a parent, how do you think I could reaffirm this? Also I haven't told my mom, so should I tell her before I go off to college or after? (I'm pretty sure she'll be ok with it, just a shock at first). Just answer from your perspective as a parent, even though it's different for everyone. Thanks!
I guess you could tell him that he may think you’re gay or straight but that just isn’t the case. Sounds like he’ll get used to it.
I always suggest telling parents before you leave for college. If you wait till after, they will blame college for ‘turning you gay’ or bi. Better for them to know it happened while you were living with them, not those crazy gay-making colleges! ;)
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Anonymous asked: Do you know of any blogs for lgbt disabled people?
I have absolutely no doubt that there is, just do a search for them. Use those terms and you will find them!
Anonymous asked: if you're going to use Gender & Sexual Minority, please add romantic in there because romantic orientations are important too. so Gender, Sexual and Romantic Minorities. :)
It will never end if we do this. I would argue that GSM INCLUDES romantic. Your sexuality would include romance and sex (that sounds odd but you should know what I mean). There is the majority: cis, hetero, romantic - and then the rest of the world.
Anonymous asked: How do I change my sexuality? I know its a dumb question but I'm so sick of people giving me shit for being a lesbian.
You don’t change your sexuality, you change the people around you. They have a problem, you don’t.
itsallfuntillthecopscome asked: Is there PFLAG meetings in Spokane, Washington?
check on PFLAG.org. You can put in your town and find all the groups in your area.
Anonymous asked: ok so im a teenage girl and i also happen to be queer. my dad seems fine with this, but my mom on the other hand seems... different. First i came out to her, and she forgot and flipped out when i mentioned it months later. since then shes been really weird if i even call one of my friends pretty. i dont even think shes alright with it. all shes ever said was "other people are like that too." not i love you no matter who you love or its ok to be gay. nothing. everytime i bring it up she drops it.
She did not forget. A mom doesn’t forget when her kid says she’s queer. My guess is that she hoped YOU WOULD forget about it. You may have to come out to her (and others) MANY times in your life.That is just a sad fact.
She may need more time to get used to the information. As she sees you grow up, queer, she will come to realize that it is who you are. You may have to wait till then to hear her say she loves you unconditionally. She may not know that is what you need to hear. Have you told her? The fact that a kid has to ask her mom that question should shake her into realizing that it is YOU she loves, not how you identify.
Try to get her to look into PFLAG.org.
Anonymous asked: Hello! I am a transmale in my sophomore, soon to be junior, year of high school and to tell the truth, I'm terrified to tell everyone in my family the truth. I told my father and mother but I have asked them to keep it quiet for now but I feel like my mom doesn't really approve it. I don't mean keeping quiet, I mean that I'm trans. I really don't know what to do. All my friend and teachers are accepting and call me by my preferred name and pronoun but I'm still scared about my family's reaction.
Nobody needs to approve of you being trans. Just acceptance. I know from being by my son’s side though his transition that it is a hard thing to tell people. You’re about to tell them something they never thought they’d ever hear.
You have to accept yourself as who you really are. It won’t make it EASIER to tell people but it will make you want to share with people. Your life will feel better if everyone calls you by your preferred name and pronouns. That’s a pretty big thing.
Tell your mom, if she asks, that you are at a very typical age to know you’re trans. Going though adolescence makes it pretty clear (for a lot of trans people) that they need to make some major changes in their lives. Disclaimer: there is not one trans-narrative. I’m just giving MY opinion of what I experienced with MY trans-son. It may be different for other people.